SATYAVADI HARISHCHAND KI BADI BADI BATEIN

SATYAVADI HARISHCHAND KI BADI BADE BATEIN 

Life is a pedestal of trials and tribulations where we often come across advises of varied types  , that are hollow and unworthy. The insane advices that hide away the necessary truth of this catastrophic world and the blatant emotionless faces that go to work without knowing what  their  real virtue is .[1] we often say that people change ingenuinely though we need to comprehend  that the reality is that beautiful hearts are often used and deterred by opportunistic and manipulative minds. we all know that no one changes for someone who they love . it is only our visionary belief system to unravel that dichotomies within believing that change is the only constant thing but we all know that neither sun sets in opposite direction or moon doesn`t shine for a week or an month because it wants to deliver us that change is constant .Nor rainbows ever had or would have  eight  colours or did you ever heard a bird chirp at night ? if nature behaves the same with you why didn't He remain the same? Not because he changed or because his priorities changed and he got what he wanted to get out of you and now he want something else. Neither  the universe made him change his mind - that he shouldn't love you anymore but because he choose not to love you anymore or maybe he had never loved you .who knows? Therefore the answer is that -  euphoria causes monotony after some time because of personal choices rather than personal change because of human self-centeredness and narcissism at most times . 

Most people or maybe I guess everyone says and even belive that [2]time heals everything . but it is not the truth , nor it can ever have the power to be one ever . so what is the real truth , why the breakup or the insult that happned past year doesn`t affect you that much but still make you sad for few seconds or minutes. Because time put layers on everything . the rate time passing according to Einstein depends on your frames of reference . that basically means that it totally depends on you , how many layers would you want to put or are capable of putting on it but as the time would pass even in the slowest motion , few thin layers would be put down on both your grief as well as ecstasy . therefore , we need not only need to change the way we think but change our belief system as the vision that time heals everything put us in a wrong and inappropriate corridor that whatever  bad that have happened to us would be healed whereas the truth is that whatever bad has happened to us would commence fading after a point of time and would be ultimately forgotten for good [not completely] but forgotten enough that you doesn`t remember it every once in awhile not because you have healed but just because you have held that pain for quite long and now it is time to switch it with some different pain and again out timely layers on it and so on .

People often say that[3] choose those who choose you as if we got options so  the real enigma is that what if no one chooses us ? people fall for someone and then they neglect us and we feel disheartened that the other person do not feel the same way we feel for them or does not express their love by doing immense gestures as we do for them and we remain unsatisfied but do you know what is the primary advice that we often gets to hear from this ruthless society filled with proclaimed sanes of all times that leave that person who you love but love those who love you back . but what if no one loves us in the very first place ? what should the one do then ? waste his whole life finding someone who love him the same way he loves her but what if he even found someone who loves her but he doesn`t love her ? how would he at the first place fall in love and feel the same way as she feel for her and what if her feeling get changed in the future after he incepts loving her unconditionally the same way she used to love her at the very first place . what is the ultimate reality check ? live life as it comes , don`t choose people just love them and love them more if they reciprocate and if they don`t , still adore them but from a distance and finally learn to unlove them . 

We often see someone or the other saying [4]whatever is yours , will find you . whereas the truth is you gotta die everyday a little to hold what is already yours and gotta reborn everyday to fight for attaining what you always want to seek. How would something that is mine find me if he or she even doesn`t even have an idea that they are mine . surely and shortly I don`t need to look to them desperately but what am I supposed to do after talking to the love of my life , when both he and I have no idea that we as each other are love of each other`s life. Not talk to them ? again . you definitely gotta take effective and evocative actions to make people and dreams real for you  and also take more genuine and earnest actions when it comes to holding on to what is yours whether it is the love of your loved ones or the position of success in your dream career .[5]Acceptance is the key is another famous thing we often come across where the correct statement  if aspirations are high- consistency is the key and if you are ready to compromise then definitely acceptance is key . acceptance is for weak people not for the strong , for them taking action is made . we often forget that accepting that we are not good at certain parts of our art doesn`t make us a class but improving it does and  that requires a big heart to first accept our follies  and then a bigger will to work on it . 

When people say [6]stop expecting , I often contemplate why ? rather than how . we are humans not robots . if we love and care for someone , expectations are natural , not ingenuine offcourse but we cannot slide away expectations from our lives as long as we are borns as humans . not expecting is not an option that we as humans can choose , though if it is then not being born a human should be chosen for sure firstly and lastly .definitely and dearly in  love and life expectations do make and break us , but what if we never expected? Won`t we be forever exploited for our foolishness ? [7]Another useless advise I see people believing is that all you need is love . No, life is a embellum of equiblrium and balance management of varied complex things such as ambition, interpersonal  relationships , health and fitness , travelling , practicing your hobbies , relaxing , etc . love as anything else does not single handedly defines life . different aspects of life are variedly important for different people of this world at different ages of their lives and that is the ultimate truth .life works on isostacy not on the edges whether it is career or love . edges are both dangerous and unwanted . after a point everyone wants safety and stability and that`t the hard reality . childhood do end and so does the youth and so does the life . 

[8]Another thing we often see people saying is Life is full of struggle and pain but what about the  happiness and comforts that  never get enough credits. Lying cosily with your loved one on the couch , watching a movie or going out for a walk in the nature`s arms are the best instances through which one can feel ultimate comfort and happiness but we as humans have forgotten to enjoy and appreciate such little moments and then we blame life for throwing balls of struggle and sufferings on us . life isn`t and  would be never an evenly edged sword but a mixture of good and bad, positive and negative , comfort and work in progress always and that`s make it worth living . though at times it gets too tough but at such times we need to remember with which life blessed us  to lessen and ease out the turmoil and trauma 

[9]Sometimes we hear that True love stories never have ending but unfortunately everything ends . nothing is forever , neither you, neither your love. so live in the present and laugh out loud and express your love for the ones now cause no one knows when , how and where your forever can even end . anything can happen in this life as life is unpredictable and that`s make it interesting . humans often have the habit of taking their life , blessings , loved ones , success , etc for granted and that`s why keeping it unknown makes it better and worth fighting for at very move . sure one can bounce back at times but sometimes you can`t and that`s the bitter sour truth about life .  

[10]Many people believe that Women are meant to be loved , not to be understood but the sheer utter reality is that everyone is meant to be loved  at some times and understood at most times because without understanding people you cannot love them genuinely . also there is no point in not getting people and loving them . that`s obvious that sometimes parents don`t get what their child`s dreams are as they are too different for them but atleast parents needs to understand that something that is different from them doesn`t make it any less unimportant or worthy of achieving and if they can`t do this then definitely their love is not unconditional . so understanding and loving should go hand in hand .

[11]We often see people say that We must be our own before we can be someone other`s but the truth is we as humans learn to be ours by being for others. Our mothers kept us in their womb and when we  as child came out she was completely herself and still ours but she learnt to be a little more of her by taking care of us in the womb . similarly sometimes our soulmate teaches us how we can love ourself a lil more . when we are in love , our babyish side come out as natural that we don`t normally see , but that comes in the presence of our lover . why? Because they made us a lil too comfortable to be us that we have forgotten to be by being on our own . 

[12]People believe that People move on but the hard truth is people pretend to  . I still remember the insult my fourth class teacher did to me and it give me shrills at night and people say that they have moved on  from a four year long relationship in 4 months . do you think its true ? people keep themselves busy , rather than healing . people choose to keep themselves engaged . moving on and healing requires time to be spent with ourselves . it requires the effort to confront to ourselves  daily, cry daily , thinking about them daily . years of patience  and practice helps one to heal completely and even then our certain parts might never get healed , so is moving on. People moving on and falling for the same energy and same type of partners shows that they look for the same disgust the very next time and keep on falling for such disgusts again and again . very few among us are really able to move on and that requires courage to fight wars with ourselves at nights and days and that is really rare.

LEEZA SHARMA