newness- not a movie review
we see one movie after another about love and we keep on watching movies about how the society projected it to be!
the love that happens and stays for all, the happy ending and the ever eternal but love is not the end but its the real beginning. we forget to talk about the complications and disparities of it , not just the fights and misunderstandings but also about the the urge to go out and flirt with someone else.even after we love someone we are catered to be attracted to someone else , who is hot and sexually pleasing. this movie has depicted about the modern day dynamics about young love in western world as in the eastern we usually see two people bound for a marriage either love or arrange and are bound to go through it all over being unhappy most part of it. But the real truth is that we can love multiple people in our lives but not at the same time , and we can still get bored of the same person and disappoint each other at times. as the name newness in itself suggest that how young adults these days are running in a constant search of externalised drama to internalised entertain them whether it's having sex with multiple partners or flirt with them. the dilemma of doing wrong never strikes there head as they feel that everyone is doing it but the reality is almost everyone is evading from the that part of life that is unwanted but would definitely happen as that is what life is.
we expect our love to be so platonic so magical so glorious that whenever we spend too much time with our loved ones or talked to much we go out to find an escape either to our families or our workplace or our hobbies but still we feel when we don't have that one person we are alone but as the other person has become monotonous to me for a while than we can't go back to that person until and unless it all looks refreshing again and we keep telling ourselves that we need to find someone who is perfect and with whom we don't feel alone but being alone and being lonely are two very different things. as George carlin says when one is alone one talks to himself but when one is lonely one fights himself to find a substitute or maybe anything that deem.him/her to forgot it about the repetitive boredom we all face when we are all alone with no one but with our ghosts and our souls , both chatting with each other about their traumas and testimony feeling miserable and agile. To feel "not so alone", we want to flirt with someone out there wearing the ring or the necklace or the his jacket he has given to us and then we feel guilty of what we have done.
the dimensional and multi layered love of this generation is un understandable to most aged people but maybe they are better of than we are at least. but it's how we see lives, we are there for short term pleasured like just watch a movie or two or a series or eat junk or waste our time just for momentary pleasure as simply as we feel good about flirting to a guy or a girl the next fifteen minutes but the next very day! we feel nothing and we are lost again and then we want to run back to our partners but who could only take away our aloofness for a while but not forever because even at times they don't want to see us and they even feel alone. the contemporary love is complicated , self deceptive and self destructive that make you feel a hole rather than holistic. as you work hard now to get good grades in the exams that would happen 4 months after similarly you would wait for that Monotonous moment to end to go back to your partners and feel the love again and if you are in a long distance relationship than maybe you have to wait for long a month or two or maybe more. but after the time ends , you feel ecstatic , whole, complete, and loved. but after he or she leaves you, not suddenly after 2-3 days the melancholy of having no one around you incepts again and again and again. Sexual stimulation are hormonal but emotional nexus are rare. one who laughs with you when you do something wierd and trust you even when you can't trust yourself, care about you no matter what, is transparent with you, want to still know you is delicate, not seasonal or for a while. when you feel the love and experiences it for a long time , you understands that how germane it is to define us as humans who are though a social animal but even love time and space of their own. new ness would appear to you as a tedious movie like love is where two people keep trying on each other and don't give up. as said in the movie - " love is something to pursue, it can't be left to your fate".this is the most meaningful movie I have seen in my life about contemporary love and the variational absurdities of it without involving any cliche or drama or any thing that is not real or pragmatic.
solitude, dullness and disheartenment are just part of our lives but with more in-depth and greater self reflection we can embrace both our issues and our partners issues to feel less fragile as love is not a part of life. love is itself both of a life and a lie as life comes with varied colors making it gray not black and white!
leeza sharma
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